We are the creators of our own lives. At any given moment, we can choose to create something beautiful from a place of awareness, or we can go through life with an subconscious mindset. When we live subconsciously, we often participate in what I call the “subconscious games.” These subconscious patterns prevent us from standing in our power. A conscious person stands in their power and makes choices from a place of awareness. This means they consciously choose their thoughts, words, and actions in each present moment. An subconscious person goes through life on autopilot, engaging almost continuously in the following games.

By naming these subconscious games, we can learn to recognize these pitfalls within ourselves more quickly. Once we notice them, we can consciously choose a different path.

The Conflict Game

These days, it seems like conflict energy is in the air. On a large scale, we see wars, and on a smaller scale, we see arguments in people’s living rooms. People easily get caught up in this subconscious game.

It’s crucial to press the pause button at the start of a conflict. You cannot resolve a conflict from a place of conflict energy. If people remain stuck in conflict while full of irritation or frustration, it will not lead to a solution. Instead, it leads to heated arguments, attempts to correct and direct each other, and a desire to be right. From this low energy/vibration, the conflict will not be resolved. It feels better to press the pause button as soon as possible before it escalates further. Conflicts grow the longer people continue to pour their energy into them.

By pressing the pause button, I mean stop arguing and separate until your inner frustration has transformed into a more harmonious and solution-oriented energy. Once you feel inner peace, you can come together again to resolve the conflict from a place of love. This is much better than letting the situation escalate over often trivial matters.

The Doubt Game

We all know doubt. This is a game I no longer play. Either I do something, or I don’t. Doubt indicates that something doesn’t feel right. The trick is to either overcome your resistance and go for it or save your energy by not doing it. But don’t become a boat rocking back and forth, afraid to choose, because then you are not in your power. Stick to your choice!

The Negativity Game

Who doesn’t know that heavy feeling we sometimes experience on this planet? It often comes with negative thoughts and feelings. I simply don’t participate in this anymore. As soon as I feel this heaviness, I know it’s time for a change. Time to elevate my state of being to a higher vibration. How do I do this? By consciously feeling what this present moment asks of me. I might feel that moving, walking, or dancing could lift my mood. Or think about listening to music or making music myself. Music helps you feel better. Nature can also help you feel better. Do what works for you!

The Fear and Attachment Game

Fear is not something we choose consciously. It often shows that we are afraid of losing something. Fear usually comes with emotional attachment. We are attached to people, possessions, money, the familiar, comfort, our bodies, our image, our country, our job, our personality, etc. We are afraid of losing these things.

I no longer play the fear game. As soon as I feel fear, I know I have some clearing work to do. I investigate what the fear points to. Fear itself is not the problem; fear is just the messenger. It points to the underlying attachment.

You show courage when you can let go of attachment or lack mentality through surrender. Everything in this physical world is temporary. Everything changes. If we don’t attach, we move through life more lightly. Fear cannot touch you because you have nothing to lose. You have nothing to lose.

The Judging and Criticizing Game

It’s easy to judge and criticize each other from an subconscious place. It happens almost automatically. Once you notice it in yourself, stop! And forgive yourself.

On a soul level, we are all brothers and sisters. Let’s look at each other through the eyes of love and focus on our qualities and beautiful sides. What you focus on grows.

The Better-Than-You Game

I am so much better, wiser, smarter, kinder, more aware, more spiritual than you… As soon as you notice such thoughts in yourself… Stop it! Nonsense. We are all one. And we are all on a journey. Of course, people can be more advanced in terms of awareness, unconditional love, and perception, but that does not make anyone more or less valuable. They are simply a bit higher up the ladder of awareness. Sooner or later, we all climb up. We are eternal beings. We have all the time.

The “I Am Not Worthy” Game

Let’s not diminish or undervalue ourselves. We are magnificent, sacred, immortal beings of light and love. The very fact that you are here on Earth now means you are a ‘great’ being. For a soul, this is a very heavy and challenging ‘place’ to incarnate. On a soul level, we are beings of light and love with a very high vibration. Incarnating here requires great courage. To be here on Earth, we lower our vibration and forget everything. You forget who you are and your divine origin. There are many other places to incarnate that feel much less heavy. You can also incarnate in the fifth dimension or on other planets.

The Hormones Game

When we feel lust, we can lose ourselves in it. It feels like an addiction that clouds our vision. For a man, this means following his desires and losing himself in lust. He can become a womanizer, hopping into bed with multiple women.

However, if love is absent, this hormone game is undesirable to me. Let’s not lose ourselves in lust. True love comes when you follow your heart.

The Impatience Game

You know the feeling. You want to cross a bridge, and it opens right before you to let boats pass. If you lose yourself in impatience, feelings of frustration and annoyance will arise. From a place of awareness, you can choose patience. You might be happy with a quiet moment to reflect or have a chat with other waiting people.

The Boredom Game

Boredom is also something you don’t choose consciously. It is the resistance you subconsciously create in the present moment. It is seeing the now through the eyes of negativity. You can choose something else. Let go of your resistance. Simply stop it. Enjoy lounging around, lazing about, or doing nothing. Or go do something fun.

The Anger Game

Anger is a natural emotion and has its place in our lives. Without anger, we let others walk all over us. Healthy anger can help us set boundaries. It teaches us to stand up for ourselves when needed.

Long-term anger, however, is poison for us. The energy of anger negatively affects our health. We should not remain stuck in anger. You are in your power when you learn to let go of your anger and forgive. Forgiveness is not for the other person; it is for yourself.

The Distraction Game

In this modern society, we have lost something. We want to escape the emptiness we feel. So we fill the emptiness with distractions and entertainment. Distracting ourselves with trivial matters won’t solve the problem. We need to turn inward and find the answer to this emptiness in our own hearts. The true solution to the emptiness we feel is love. True love gives meaning and color to our lives.

The Comfort Zone Game

It is so easy to stagnate in life. To simply stay in your comfort zone and not grow in awareness. People are attached to more of the same and keep choosing what they are more familiar with. However, for our awareness, it is important that we continue to grow and change. So when change knocks on your door, be grateful for it. Even in a great challenge, there is always a gift to be found. You may not recognize it in the moment, but later, when you look back, you’ll see that these challenges bring about change and get us back in the flow of life. Living consciously means growing and changing.

The Proving-Yourself Game

In my past, I felt the need to prove myself and show off. Now, I no longer seek validation from others. There comes a point in your life when you realize it doesn’t matter what others think of you. You let it go. You don’t need to prove anything. You are worthy.

Conclusion

We have become so accustomed to living on autopilot that we no longer see these subconscious and unpleasant games.

Often, people are afraid to stand in their power and choose from a place of awareness and love. People are also attached to life as they know it. This is fear of change and fear of standing in your power.

It’s actually quite simple. We only need to learn one thing: to live consciously. Then we simply stop playing these games. These games are easy to recognize. They don’t feel good. We need to train ourselves in becoming more aware and to life consciously in the moment. This is the growth of our consciousness.

Do you know of any more of these subconscious games? Can you share your stories with us?